“Criticism, like swearing, is actually nothing more than a bad habit. It’s something we get used to doing; we’re familiar with how it feels. It keeps us busy and gives us something to talk about.

If, however, you take a moment to observe how you actually feel immediately after you criticize someone, you’ll notice that you will feel a little deflated and ashamed, almost like you’re the one who has been attacked. The reason this is true is that when we criticize, it’s a statement to the world and to ourselves, “I have a need to be critical.” This isn’t something we are usually proud to admit.

The solution is to catch yourself in the act of being critical. Notice how often you do it and how bad it makes you feel. What I like to do is turn it into a game. I still catch myself being critical, but as my need to criticize arises, I try to remember to say to myself, “There I go again.” Hopefully, more often than not, I can turn my criticism into tolerance and respect.”

Richard Carlson, PH.D., in “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff”

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“Never act out of scarcity or panic. Do not allow yourself to be pressured into doing something you do not want to do or are not ready to do. Never let anyone frighten you into a decision. If you do, you will surely regret your action. Then you will have to retrace your steps and undo what you did from a position of “not enough.”

Instead, proceed from choice. Act when you are ready to act. Wait until you have come to a decision that works for you. If it’s not a “Hell, yes!” it’s a “Hell, no!” Associate with friends and business colleagues who are motivated by a positive vision than panic, hustling, or emotional manipulation. As you trust your inner knowing, your decisions will honor you and your intention.”

Alan Cohen, in “Why Your Life Sucks…And What You Can Do About It

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“I don’t know if it is human nature or the way of life on Earth, but we seldom become all of who we are until forced into it. Some say that something in us rises to the occasion, that there is, as Hemingway called it, “a grace under pressure” that comes forth in most of us when challenged. Others say this talk of grace is merely a way to rationalize hard times and painful experience, a way to put a good face on tragedy.

Yet beneath all the talk of tragedy and grace, I have come to believe that we are destined to be opened by the living of our days, and whether we like it or not, whether we choose to participate or not, we will, in time, every one of us, wear the deeper part of who we are as a new skin.

Either by erosion from without or by shedding from within – and often from both – we are forced to live more authentically. And once the crisis that opened us passes, the real choice then becomes: Will we continue such authentic living?”

Mark Nepo, in “The Book of Awakening”

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“An ancient teaching says, “The world is a teacher to the wise man and an enemy to the fool.” No event is painful in and of itself. It’s all a matter of perspective. It’s important to understand that everything happening in the world is as it should be every moment. There are no mistakes. There are no accidents. The world is a heavenly sky and a bottomless pit. When we understand that we cannot have one without the other, it becomes easier to accept the world as it is.”

Debbie Ford, in “The Dark Side of the Light Chasers”

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“Watch out for anyone who says, “I have so much love to give and no one to give it to.” Immediately translate that into, “I am the emotional black hole of the universe, and I will suck every ounce of life force from you if you let me.”

Elaine Boosler

Jeff Maziarek, author of Spirituality Simplified and Codi’s Journey, launched Pondercentral.com in April 2007 as a Web-based forum for “PONDER on THIS,” a series of weekday inspirational email messages he began sending to subscribers in March 1999. A FREE service since its inception, “PONDER on THIS” provides subscribers with meaningful content to assist them on their individual paths of spiritual growth. In addition, it benefits subscribers, authors, and publishers by including links to Amazon.com where subscribers can learn more about the book being quoted, and also purchase it.

“If you want to know what you truly believe, if you want to really get in touch with the belief systems that are, I almost want to say running your life, look at what you’re resisting. And most importantly, look what at what you’re resisting changing. There’s no mystery there; we resist what we don’t want to let go of, and what we don’t want to let go of is what we truly believe. So, this isn’t a mysterious construction; it’s stating the obvious. And yet, sometimes it’s the most obvious thing that we ignore, and don’t really take a look at.

So I always tell people when I see them mightily resisting any suggestion, any change, any idea, any concept, look to see if that might be a very deeply held truth within you…that which you are resisting changing. And then look to see whether holding on to that truth as you are, with such white knuckles, is really serving you. Really take a close look at whether that truth serves you. It’s amazing how few of our deeply held truths actually serve us. It’s remarkable.”

Neale Donald Walsch In “Abundance and Right Livelihood”

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