“If others know they can manipulate you by having their feelings hurt, that is precisely what they will do whenever you get out of line or declare your own independence. Ninety-five percent of hurt feelings are strategy on the ‘hurtee’s’ part. People will use their hurt feelings over and over on you if you are gullible enough to buy it. Only victims run their lives on the premise that they must always watch out for others’ getting hurt feelings. This is not a license to be obstinately inconsiderate, but simply a basic understanding that people generally stop having hurt feelings when they realize that those feelings can no longer be used to manipulate you.”

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, in “Pulling Your Own Strings”

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“The highest achieving, happiest and most effective individuals, those that are truly “self-actualized,” have a number of traits in common.  Of these, the three most important are:

1. They learn to live their lives independent of the good opinions of others.
2. They are not attached to results.
3. They have no investment in having power over others.

Dr. Abraham Maslow

Compiler’s Note:  The above is a paraphrasing of Maslow, as this information was originally brought to my attention while I was attending a live presentation by Dr. Wayne Dyer.

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“Acceptance does not mean that we have to allow things into our lives that aren’t good for us. Obviously, we wouldn’t go out and commit a crime because we believed there was something to be gained by learning to confront fears we have about such behavior. We don’t become whole unless we recognize the need to set boundaries and be able to discriminate between what’s right and not right for us.

Being willing to learn from our relationships does not mean that we should stay in situations that are not good for us. If a relationship is physically or emotionally abusive, what we have to learn from it is how to set boundaries and protect ourselves. This could mean going into couples counseling to seek real and lasting resolutions. Or it could mean leaving the relationship if that is the only way we could effectively take care of ourselves.”

Shakti Gawain, in “The Path of Transformation”

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“Life is a crossword puzzle, the right word gives you the answer. Many people are rattling off destructive words in their conversation. We hear them say, ‘I’m broke! I’m sick!  Remember by your words you are justified and by your words you are condemned. You are condemned by them because they do not return void.  Change your words and you change your world, for your word IS your world.”

Florence Scovel Shinn, in “Power of the Spoken Word”

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“When someone starts out with, “You should have,” try telling the person, “If you can get me a round-trip ticket back to the same time you’re talking about, I’ll gladly do what you say I should have done. But if you can’t…” Your “opponent” will get the message that you are wise to the trap, which is more than half your battle. Alternately, you can try, “You are right, I should have.” Once you’ve agreed, the responsibility is on your “adversary” to deal with you in the present.”

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, in “Pulling Your Own Strings”

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