When we upgrade something in our lives, the thing we used to be satisfied with is no longer satisfying.
That’s the nature of an upgrade.
After a certain point, the only thing we’re buying is the way the upgrade makes us feel in the moment, not our satisfaction going forward.
Stereos, salt, art on the wall. It’s easy to get hooked on the climb, not the altitude.
Luxury goods are a special set of upgrades. These are purchases that aren’t actually an upgrade, they simply feel that way because of their cost (and the status that goes with it).
At some point, the best upgrade is the realization that we have enough.
This is a useful term. It helps us understand a topic or theory that can be considered from multiple points of view by people engaging with good intent.
“Pluto is a planet” was a controversial statement among some people who study the solar system.
On the other hand, it’s not controversial that Pluto actually exists.
Choosing to engage in a conversation about something that’s controversial gives us a chance to share our insights and engage in dialogue. And it also comes with the knowledge that we’ll need to devote time and care to having that conversation.
On the other hand, inventing false controversy is simply a tool to keep people away.
If you insist that the world is flat, and that talking about its spherical nature is controversial, then you’ve made it hard to be a travel agent, a geologist or a sailor. You’ve scared people away from a productive conversation because you’re claiming something without good intent.
The key element of ‘controversial’ is possibility. If that’s not there, it’s simply an empty argument.
Last year, the recording session I did with Mel Robbins was going so well that her producers asked me to stick around–four hours later, we had recorded enough for two episodes.
One never knows how these things will feel until after the fact, but part 2 is live now. I hope you get as much out of it as I did…
My day with Mel inspired my new book, which ships in 9 weeks. And the limited-edition multi-pack is well on its way to being fully subscribed. I just added a new spiral-bound booklet for the first 700 orders. Photos to come when it comes back from the printer.
You can find the conversations with Mel here.
Problems can be solved.
Here’s a short riff on the world’s worst boss:
And here’s a page for Mel fans who are new to the blog.
And the episode…
The moment you start treating your customers as captives, they begin to make other plans.
It might take a while, but they always end up leaving. The first step is warning away their friends.
On the other hand, when we treat our customers like the free agents they are, they often choose to stick around (and bring the others).
Before you reward an analyst for jacking up the price and making some money this week, it might be worth focusing on what that short-term move is going to cost you.
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