Gentle and Humble in Heart and more...

Hello, everyone. Ian here from sunny Sydney. We trust everyone’s 2026’s have started well.

With the beginning of a new year, it’s often a good time to re-set and re-assess our relationship with God. Perhaps more so with all that’s going on in the world. Much of it not good making these times a little (or a lot) scary.

Yes, there are all the macro big world events but also within our own worlds there’s usually a lot going on. In the last two days, I’ve found out two people dear to me and/or their loved ones have discovered they have cancer.

It’s time like this where our hearts cry out of for more of God. For His intervention. For His presence to be known by those suffering and their loved ones.

We can know God is with us and is working in every situation even if we don’t sense it or don’t see any immediate results. We look for the miraculous intervention, we want it, for us and our loved ones. We look for the lightning bolt that will change the situation.

When nothing happens, we cry out some more and perhaps doubt. But doubt is okay. God isn’t bothered by it. In fact, I think he probably expects it. My pastor only said this week, “authentic faith has to include a certain amount of doubt.” We don’t get all the answers, faith is full of mystery.

What’s Jesus Like?

The Bible tells us many stories about Jesus. His life, his miracles, his actions and words. But there’s little about the core of who he is. One verse does tell us something, though. Let’s have a look at it:

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” (Matthew 11:28-29)

Did you catch it?

Gentle and humble in heart. This is how Jesus describes himself. This is who he is. Always.

No matter what’s going on in your individual circumstances, in your families, rest assured that Jesus is with you. Being gentle and humble in heart loving you and all those you love.

Go to Jesus. Choose to hang out with him when you’re doing the chores, working, picking the kids up from school, making dinner and so on.

Try to see if you can see his heart for you. It’s big, gentle and humble.

Go well, dear SUMites.

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Hi Sumites, Lynn Donovan here. Recently I’ve been learning about narcissism and personality disorders in general. I’m utterly fascinated how disorders are formed and also managed within a person. I’m also interested in how these quirks, annoyances, and very challenging behaviors affect us relationally, especially within the context of marriage and our family of origin.

I believe we can discover the biblical wisdom to handle personalities with love while maintaining our faith and safe boundaries.

This could be a long study or a very short one, depending how we travel the course. Many spiritually mismatched believers are dealing with personality issues that profoundly impact their marriage, family and faith life. I think this might be helpful to consider some of the challenges in our unique marriages and how to handle ourselves within some of these contexts.

It might also be informative to consider where we may need to do some work to manage our own personality quirks as well as those we interact with.

I also believe our faith and understanding of who we are in Christ Jesus will provide us with truth to navigate challenging relationships.

Here me now….

I’m not an expert but I have some knowledge and experience working with believers who are walking with family members who have personality disorders. Some disorders are ADHD, spouses on the Autism spectrum, lack of empathy or respect, etc. I’m not sure how much I will choose to write about or how in-depth we might travel. But I hope to offer some new thoughts for us to consider.

Mostly, I hope you will help me. So many of you are well read and informed regarding specific disorders. If you have walked through this with a spouse or family member, please take a minute to write to me. I want your perspective. You can share as much or as little as you desire. And it’s always confidential.

I also want to hear from you if you don’t want to take a look at these issues. Truly.

So, let’s vote. See the voting trends once you cast your vote.

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Please share any thoughts with me regarding this topic in the comments. I’m very, very interested. I love you, Lynn

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Seminar Three: Develop Spiritual Gifts
There is so much confusion about spiritual gifts. It’s time to clearly divide the Word of God. Know what gifts we have access to then develop them in our lives. As the world grows dark, we reveal the light of God through His many gifts.

We will cover, hearing in the spirit realm, seeing in the Spirit, discerning of Spirits, and spiritual sensitivity. Then we will talk about how we take specific faith action to develop these Holy Spirit qualities and use them practically.

WE WILL PRACTICE in real time and learn what we are naturally inclined toward.

Donation Teaching Seminar with Lynn Donovan

$25.00

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Hello! Barb Twigg here with another What I Know For Sure

The veil will be removed!

 

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It’s been a loooong while since I written about the practical life in a spiritually mismatched marriage. Today I would like to share a few thoughts of wisdom among us believing spouses as Valentine’s Day is about to roll around (AGAIN).

In all transparency, I wish this day didn’t exist. Well, Kinda. It is wonderful when you are remembered by a spouse with flowers, dinner, chocolates, even a card. But there are many who aren’t remembered. Or should I say, we feel forgotten, unseen, unappreciated…… lonely…

Hurt.

This is true in marriages, for single people, widows and even children. We all need to know we are loved.

In our early years, Mike, would forget. He was newly married, busy at work, etc. It’s not an excuse to forget but that was reality. What I found that helped my hurting heart was to gently coach him.

“Hey,” I would timidly inquire, “It would be really great if you would send flowers to the bank next week on Valentine’s Day.”

He needed coaching. Yea, NOT VERY ROMANTIC. But I still appreciated the gesture. Mike was really bad about gift giving. Still today, after 33 years, he is STILL really bad about gift giving. I must tell him what to buy me for Christmas, birthdays etc. However, he is brilliant at buying cards.

He has given me the most beautiful words over the years of our marriage. THIS is what he does. He searches the cards for an hour, finding the perfect reflections of words that express his heart of love toward me. He can’t do it any other way.

But the words of the cards are thought-filled and authentic. He also takes time to write his thoughts in these cards. They are vulnerable and words I will never hear him speak to me.

Hmmmmmm, a truly beautiful gift. I just needed to stop comparing my V-day gifts with others. I needed to coach him a bit. Sometimes I have to take action. Such as buying the movie theater tickets and then tell him, “Mike, you are taking me to dinner and a movie this weekend.”

Buy yourself flowers. Buy a card. Send cards. Send me a card. Show your love to a stranger. Let Jesus love on you.

The greatest valentine was given to you. Bright red, hung on a tree, our Savior.

I love you my friends. Plan your V-day now. How do you coach your spouse? Share and help a girl out. Blessings and hugs, Lynn

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