Are You Listening?
As a coach, counselor, and facilitator I’m expected to listen. I even get paid to listen.
Yet in the last 24 hours I know I have:
- Interrupted (because I forgot the other person was actually talking).
- Finished someone else’s sentence (and got it wrong).
- Told my story (that their story brought to mind) before they finished theirs.
- And more…
It’s embarrassing. As soon as I think I’ve got this listening thing down, it scampers off.
Step One: Admit that my listening has become unmanageable and…well, you know the rest.
That is the good news. My depth of denial has diminished. So, I’m glad for the sad when I miss the message. Plus, I get less mad at myself and others about all this.
What? Did you say something?
Truly, I want to listen. Please write me about your listening journey if you dare. Email to email@example.com (my other email is in the shop!).
Denverton, California: my Home, Home, Home, Hometown back in '49.
I wrote my bio (below) for an upcoming Merced College event in March entitled “Get Fired Up!” As my fellow Sealegger, I want you to see it and share your comments and stories. Here it is:
Professional Development Coach, John Parker, M.A., successfully trains, motivates and inspires participants toward greater leadership, communication, and customer service skills. Bringing “Ah-Ha!” moments and positive breakthrough experiences into event moments is Parker’s passion. That’s why participants say, “John Parker knows his stuff…is easily understood…engaging…never boring…well organized…fun…(and) draws out our best.”
A Merced College Customer Service Academy Workshop Presenter, John is also an Instructor for the University of California Davis Center for Human Services, a Dream Team Coach and Instructor for the California Teaching Fellows Foundation of Fresno, a Certified Trainer for SkillPath Seminars of Kansas, an Instructor for Webucator, Inc. of New York, and Adventure Guide for ProfessionalDevelopmentAdventures.com.
John’s California History: Merced local since 1978; Highway 99 kid (residing in Marysville, Redding, Yuba City, Fresno, Bakersfield, and now Merced) since 1952; Pacific Island native, born on Alameda Island off the coast of Oakland; and a genuine ’49er through his Parker side—James Monroe Parker migrated out from New York to California with his family in 1849.
For fun, John serves as a micro-community coach, locally and online.
What was interesting to you? I’d love to hear. Please reply. Best re-ARGHs! Cap’n John!
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Martin Luther King, Jr. Day
Leadership lessons from Martin Luther King, Jr. (Wikipedia
1. “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.
2. “If you can’t fly then run; if you can’t run then walk; if you can’t walk then crawl but whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward.”
3. “Free at last, Free at last, Thank God almighty we are free at last.”
4. “Well, I don’t know what will happen now. We’ve got some difficult days ahead. But it doesn’t matter with me now. Because I’ve been to the mountaintop. And I don’t mind. Like anybody, I would like to live a long life. Longevity has its place. But I’m not concerned about that now. I just want to do God’s will. And He’s allowed me to go up to the mountain. And I’ve looked over. And I’ve seen the promised land. I may not get there with you. But I want you to know tonight, that we, as a people, will get to the promised land. So I’m happy, tonight. I’m not worried about anything. I’m not fearing any man. Mine eyes have seen the glory of the coming of the Lord.” — This final quote is from King’s last speech before he was assassinated, April 4, 1968.
Sealeggers on the Beirocks
First, it’s not Beirox or Beiroxi. It’s a Beirock! The plural is Beirocks. They are referred to as a covey, gaggle, group, flock, basketful, or tray of Beirocks (Hey! Why not? You guys liked beirocks spelled beirox, right?).
Second, there are a lot bierock fans: Here are some beirock comments:
- Kelly: Good morning John, My only question is where can I get a Beirox in Fresno now? I have to have one. Thanks!
- Janice: I am subscribed to your blog, which I totally enjoy each time it appears in my email. This one hit home particularly hard as I grew up on bierocks. I am a German from Russia and my grandparents always made these when I was growing up. I don’t know if you are still in the Fresno area, but The Berrock Shop is a great place to get bierocks (if you don’t make them your self!!). It is located at the northwest corner of West and Bullard avenues in the Save Mart Shopping Center.
Phone-in orders: 559-439-0402
Hours of operation:
Monday – Friday 7 a.m. – 8 p.m.
Saturday 10 a.m. – 6 p.m.
- Betty: Well, I just learned that is how it’s spelled too. My (now 90 year old) grandmother last made these for me eight years ago when I was pregnant and asked her for the recipe. I think I will need to make them soon too. Thanks for the memories. (Sorry, Betty I was wrong. It’s beirocks. LOL! ARGH!)
- Sean: Good morning John, There are a few places in the Fresno area to get beirox/beirocks. I recommend a small shop in Clovis called Scoops, Soups & More and eating one with mustard. Thank you!
- Alex: Good day! Bierock Shop in Fresno on Bullard/Fruit. If in Madera, try Nonni’s Bakery Tuesday-Friday. Made fresh daily for lunch & oh so delicious!
- Mercedes: I learned something new today — Bierox! (I do think it is, a better looking spelling!-JP)
- Roger: Thanks John, We had bierocks for lunch at Scandinavian Elementary in Fresno also. They were too good to throw, I just ate mine with gusto.
- Vivian: Happy Holidays, John, My mouth has been watering waiting for the beirock recipe…will it be published soon? Yes, Vivian! Beirocks recipe here!
Today’s Leadership Lesson: Do something even if you think you know how to spell something and actually don’t know how! No one yelled at me and some loved my new spelling!
Finally, what’s even better than beer on the rocks? Now we know! Beirocks! Better eaten than thrown!
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