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Dear Carol: My mother has had and beaten back several types of cancer, but then, at 83, she developed bowel cancer that spread. She said when this cancer was diagnosed that she didn’t want treatment and was at peace with her pending death. Mom’s on hospice care and is at home, though she’s non-responsive for the most part. The staff is good and uses the proper protocol for COVID so I’m incredibly grateful to them. I can work from home which is also helpful. Mom seems comfortable, so I have no complaints there either. It’s just that I don’t want to lose her. Of course, I don’t want her to suffer anymore, but my heart hurts as I watch her slip away. Is this selfish? Also, what do I do for her as I sit here by her side, and for myself?  – SG

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Dear Carol: ...Practically everything that you read about adult incontinence refers to older people with prostate problems, or menopause, or dementia – or whatever. Young people would like to see this condition normalized to some extent. We are not less competent just because we need to use incontinence products. Can you please spread the word?

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Dear Candid Caregiver: My heart is breaking! My mom and I have always been close, even shopping together and having lunch quite regularly, so it was devastating when she was diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer’s at age 53. Mom seems to have a particularly aggressive form of the disease, so just three years down the road she’s now judged to be in the late stage of her disease. Two years ago, I quit college to move back home and take care of her, which I was glad to do under the circumstances. Many changes have been challenging, of course, particularly six months ago when it became necessary...

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