Women’s Health Week was May 14th to May 20th and it got me thinking about this time last year. I always schedule my annual physical with my primary physician during May. I had a list of symptoms I was definitely uncomfortable discussing with him but I ...

 

I Laughed So Hard I Peed My Pants… and more...



I Laughed So Hard I Peed My Pants…

Women’s Health Week was May 14th to May 20th and it got me thinking about this time last year. I always schedule my annual physical with my primary physician during May. I had a list of symptoms I was definitely uncomfortable discussing with him but I knew it had to be done.

 

More than 65 million people have incontinence and it is three times more prevalent in women. If it’s so common why do we not talk about it with each other or more importantly why are we uncomfortable talking about it with our doctors?

 

My husband had the idea that we should take a road trip with the five of our thirteen- grandkids. With five-kids we call ‘the middles,’ aged nine to fourteen we left Philadelphia in a big red van and headed south on I-95.

 

 

I was prepared for, “Are we there yet,” and “Can we stop I have to go to the bathroom,” from the middles. It never happened. They would have been happy with the snacks we had and driving straight through. I wasn’t prepared to be the one that needed to stop every two hours to use the bathroom.

 

A few months before the trip I started needing to get up during the night to go and most recently I would go before getting into bed and as soon as I lay down I needed to get up and go again. Foolishly I stopped drinking anything after 8:00 p.m. That left me waking up at 3 a.m. parched and with a sore throat.

 

The middles thought teaching Mom-Mom their best hip hop moves was a great idea. It was a great idea and a lot of fun until I laughed so hard I peed my pants. Not just a little dribble that I could hide but the puddle on the floor kind. We all laughed so hysterically and it happened again.

 

For the rest of that vacation the kids would say, “Let’s be serious don’t make Mom-Mom laugh.”

 

I was embarrassed and honestly scared. What if this happened in a professional or social setting?

 

I knew I had to have that talk with my doctor.

 

His professional kindness was impressive, sadly not all male physicians take us women and our symptoms seriously.

 

His advice to me was:

 

  • Drink six to eight, eight ounce glasses of water a day. Not drinking does not stop incontinence it actually makes it worse.

 

 

  • To exercise for at least thirty minutes every day. He suggested I try yoga and to include squats because they work on our pelvic and abdominal muscles.

My first attempts at yoga

 

  • Get seven to eight hours a sleep every night.

 

  • You are a confident, successful woman, suck it up and consider #Depend. Do not jeopardize that confidence you worked so hard for.

 

I Googled #Depend and came across a link for a free sample. I ordered and you should too!  {Depends Silhouette Free Sample}

 

 

 

To bring the discussion forward #Depend has partnered with two amazing women. Suzie Haines was running a marathon and did not make it to the restroom in time. She started mapping bathrooms everywhere she went. I can relate. Depend has boosted her confidence. Suzie is a busy mom, fitness instructor and a yoga enthusiast.

 

 

Dyan is an entrepreneur and a community activist. She tried proving to herself that even though she needed frequent bathroom breaks it wouldn’t interfere with her ability to pursue her dreams. When it did interfere she decided to give Depend a try and hasn’t stopped for a minute to look back. She teaches children dance routines at her own studio and performs with a dance group featuring women forty-plus at national sporting events.

 

Suzie convinced me to try yoga which I was terrified to try because of incontinence. Dyan’s story inspired me to order that trial sample and to actually look forward to another dancing session with my middles.

 

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Many of us suffer in silence because we’re embarrassed to talk with each other or our doctors. This leads to giving up our most enjoyed activities and sadly causes us to be terrified to laugh. Be a girlfriend and start the conversation. Let’s not give up our hard earned confidence and continue to #OwnYourGreatness!

 

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Thanks for reading,

Doreen

 

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Monday Morning Rant…What is the difference between Catholicism and Dominoes?

Monday Morning Rant…

What is the difference between Catholicism and Dominoes?

Last week was a rough one. Every planet must have been retrograde and a bunch of people in my life must have been on a steady diet of mean pills. Personally I always try to say what I mean without ever saying it mean and if I see or hear someone being mistreated I’m most often the first one to come to the rescue of the victim. What I saw and heard this week was people I’ve always respected doing nothing to correct or change the bad behavior of people that were treating others unkindly, even bullying.

 

I left the Catholic Church as a young adult. The controversy and horrors became too much for me to take. It wasn’t just the horrors that turned me away but the fact that crimes were being covered up and the guilty were being sheltered. Victims were being exposed and shamed. None of that spoke to me in a Christian voice so I didn’t quietly leave, I ran as fast and loudly as I could and took my kids with me.

 

Twelve-years ago I had a profound experience that left me questioning why I ever allowed a bunch of bullies to run me off. After meeting with a Monsignor I was invited back into the church with open arms and encouraged to become active, to be the church I wanted. I was determined to take my religion back and was devoted to working for the changes that we had no choice but to make.

 

Change is almost always easily welcomed and accepted by the masses. It’s those that have held ‘power’ the longest that fear any type of change and that fear prevents them from doing what is right and just. That fear prevents them from putting the horrors of the past behind us and prevents us from moving forward in a positive and welcoming way.

 

Last year our church received a new pastor. He didn’t participate in the celebration we had to welcome him.  Immediately the rumors swirled. Is he just shy? Aloof? Unhappy to be here? Is he here to close us? Is he just plain rude?

 

I still have no idea what the answer is to those questions. I do know he rarely smiles.

Our Parish has a deep well of talented, inspirational and kind volunteers that work tirelessly to evangelize and grow our Congregation. They also work endlessly to communicate to our community that we are a welcoming, loving religion and all are welcome here.

 

Last week a few of us volunteers needed to hold a last- minute meeting on church business. It was election-day so the room we usually meet in was being used as a polling place. We asked the parish secretary if we could use the church or another room in the large rectory. She said no. She didn’t just say no.  She was mean about the denial. I like the secretary and am grateful for her many years of service. It makes me sad to think she is so unhappy or is possibly walking through something so difficult that she can’t share. That caring doesn’t excuse bad behavior.

 

We’ve overlooked her crassness for years because we are so grateful. However when I start hearing from would be new members of our parish that she is not welcoming or helpful, when she is unkind to those working on church business, when she (and other employees of our Parish) continually harass a Christian community organization renting space from us and when a group of volunteers can’t use a space in their church to conduct church business, I cannot stay silent.

 

Because our Pastor is unapproachable and our Parish secretary works as his gatekeeper we needed to attend an early morning Mass in an attempt to corner him. It was apparent he didn’t want to be cornered as he kept his back to us the whole time we spoke.  Every few minutes he took a step forward.

 

 

We asked if everything was okay with our secretary and her family. We told him we were concerned about her. He told us he was sorry if it sounded mean but she follows his orders and if we wanted to have a meeting we had to pre-schedule it with the her because those are the rules.

I asked him if we could do a second collection for that Christian community organization that rents space in our property and he said no. He said the Archdiocese does not allow us to take collections for organizations that aren’t ‘ours.’ He then ran off…

 

 

 

I felt like a scolded 5th grade Catholic School student again. My feelings were hurt and those hurt feelings quickly turned to anger. I and the two women with me were stunned and we felt crushed.

 

Our Pastor and secretary seem to have forgotten the fact that they work for us and our entire church family. They are paid employees. We are volunteers that work tirelessly for our church family and we have always treated them with the utmost respect and are always willing to do whatever we can to make their jobs easier, all they have to do is ask.

 

 

I’ve since been informed by the Archdiocese finance office that they definitely do not frown upon second collections being taken up for non- Catholic organizations or any worthy cause our church family sees fit to request.

The Catholic Church has gotten out of the business of educating children. It’s time for those who have been ‘in power’ the longest to recognize that fact and to start speaking to and treating their Parishioners’ like the adults they are. It is not their job to ‘teach us’ or ‘scold’ us.

 

We are well aware of the fact that our religion is in danger of complete collapse, the dominoes are picking up speed. We are working with full, honest hearts to shore up our foundation and to move forward into the future with the best of intentions. We are working to communicate with Catholics that have been hurt, have fallen away and to other denominations as well as our communities that we are a warm, welcoming Christian religion with clergy and members that are Christ like.

 

“I’m sorry if that sounds mean,” is unacceptable. It is never okay to sound intentionally mean.

 

 

What is the difference between the Catholicism and Dominoes? The answer is the volunteers.

 

If we want to prevent the total collapse of our church it’s time for a drastic change of attitude and for all Catholic volunteers to be treated like the adults they are and most importantly with the utmost respect and Christ like kindness.

It is up to us volunteers to ask for, to expect and to even demand the changes if necessary.

Have a Blessed Day,

Doreen

 

      
 

Foodie Friday Fragments…

Foodie Friday Fragments are bits and pieces of your week that are usually brief; too short for a stand-alone post, but too good to discard. Collect humorous observations, “Heard” items, and other small gems throughout your week and put them together in a Friday Fragments post. Add a recipe or something ‘foodie’ from your week. Leave me a link in the comments so I can read your fragments!

The original host of Friday Fragments was Mrs. 4444’s. You can find some of those posts here: (half past kissin’ time to kiss again.)

Thank God It’s Friday! What a busy week I’ve had. How about you? Are you doing any fun Spring- type things or is it all work? Do you do Spring cleaning? I honestly need to do some serious cleaning and organizing but instead I’m on beach vacation countdown. In one month I will be on the beach with my 5-kids; their spouses; their children and all of my in-laws and their families. I’ll be the one wearing glamorous sun glasses and a cute new bathing suit and I’ll have an Orange Creamsicle drink in my hand. I’m looking forward to watching the little’s (my youngest granddaughters) building sandcastles. The boys will be in the water on their boogie boards and the older girls will definitely be surfing the sand for cute boys! I can’t wait!

Frozen Creamsicle

¾ cup of not from concentrate orange juice

¼ cup of real vanilla bean ice-cream

1 shot of Pinnacle orange whipped cream vodka or any Orange vodka (1.5 oz.)

2 ice cubes

Whipped Cream and orange slices for topping

Put all ingredients in blender (except toppings) and blend until smooth

                                                                                                                            Serve in a tall daiquiri glass or in a fancy Martini glass. Garnish with orange slices and whipped cream. Find a beach😊

I’ve been a Press Club board member for 6-years. Wednesday was the end of my 3rd-2 year term. It was supposed to be one-2 yr. term. I’m a bit sad but also looking forward to what the new members will do. The same day I became a Family Promise   board member. Ending homelessness in my county, state and in this country is my passion. I’m hoping I can make a difference.

I had the opportunity to meet Jeff Rotwitt the owner of Sun Center Studios also known as Hollywood East. The Center is practically in my back yard. The upcoming movie Untouchables starring Nicole Kidman, Kevin Hart and Bryan Cranston was recently filmed there as well as Silver Linings Playbook, Creed and many more. Exciting things are coming to the center! A hotel, an indoor (it gets pretty cold here) Universal Studio type attraction and more music events. It’s all so exciting and will create quite a few jobs. They should break ground in the fall. I’m looking forward to interviewing Jeff’s daughter Julie in the near future.

Did you watch the first season of Animal Kingdom? If you were a fan of the Soprano’s or Son’s of Anarchy I recommend this one. The second season starts May 30th on TNT. The first season makes a great binge watch! When a heroin overdose kills his mother, teenager J Cody (Finn Cole) has to move to Southern California to live with his estranged grandmother, ‘Smurf’ played well by Ellen Barkin. Smurf runs the family business , a criminal enterprise. The storyline is actually believable and that’s scary.

My granddaughter Julia went to prom last Friday. She looked gorgeous! Her cousin Allyson did a stunning job on hair and makeup.

The manuscript for my 3rd book, Realize Your Writing Dreams will be going to my editor next Wednesday! Finally!

I facilitated 3 seminars for SCORE on marketing last week. All 3 were so much fun! I love meeting entrepreneurs and am always fascinated at how many creative new businesses there are out there.

This week I’ll be preparing for the #NJSCBWI where I’m presenting a workshop on Marketing Books and for the #PhiladelphiaWritersConference I’ll be presenting a workshop on Memoir. If you are interested in attending the Philadelphia conference, please email me: doreenb8@verizon.net

The annual Victorious Woman Girlfriend Gala is next Wednesday. It’s a fundraiser for a non-traditional nursing student. I’ve been on the committee for 4-years and love watching all of those details turn into one fabulously fun night with girlfriends. We finished wrapping the raffle baskets and silent auction items this morning. I can’t wait!

Have a blessed weekend,

Doreen

 

 

 

 

 

      
 

Music Monday featuring Dskillz Harris…

Many of the happiest memories I have are filled with music. It’s like the sound is woven through each memory, holding them together.

Because music is so important to me, such a part of my life I’ve wanted to join in on #Music Monday.

My #Music Monday posts will include interviews and music from new and veteran artists from all genres of music as well as the music that has meant the most to me throughout my life.

This week I want to introduce you to Dskillz Harris. He is an 18-year-old producer/emcee from Baltimore. Dskillz is currently a freshman at Morgan State University.

The intro track from his newest project earned a top spot on Maryland’s “Hottest In The State” mixtape.

Interview Questions

Where did you grow up?

I grew up in Westside Baltimore, MD.  I grew up in the “Zone 16” Garrison/Walbrook Junction area. I went to Friends School of Baltimore and Coppin Academy for High School.

Were you raised in a musical family?

Somewhat, my late cousin Philip “Sir Andre” Stancil was a pianist who toured with B.B. King. My step-father is Vaughan Mason of “Rock, Skate, Roll, Bounce” and “Break For Luv” fame. My grandfather on my father’s side was a painter named Ray Harris.

Are you a student? What school? What is your major?

I’m currently a Junior at Morgan State University. My major is Computer Science. Honestly I want to further my music profession and my plan B is to do cyber security work.

When did you know you would be a performer/artist?

When I was in elementary school, I performed in many plays. In the third grade, my history teacher taught my class about the griots of Africa. That day inspired me to carry on that tradition. I wasn’t rapping at that time but I was drawing mini-comic books for members of my family. When I got to middle school, I started getting in freestyle battles. I became adept at coming up with improvisational rhymes. One day during my sophomore year of high school, one of my contemporaries “Apollo” (of Mobtown Only) convinced me to start writing my rhymes down. Once I started writing and recording; i wanted to perform live. My Alma Mater, Friends School of Baltimore; helped me hone my skills by performing several times at its Coffeehouse event. These events (held by the Save The Music Club at Friends) is a safe space for local musicians, poets, comedians, and others to share their work in front of a live audience full of open-minded peers.

If you were to go on a dream world tour who would be on the ticket with you ‘old school’ and who would it be ‘new school?’

This is a tough one because many of my favorite artists are no longer with us.

Old School :

Tupac

The Notorious B.I.G.

The Wutang Clan

MF DOOM

Big Pun

New School :

Kendrick Lamar

Isaiah Rashad

ScHoolboy Q

Logic Odd Future

What is your creative process, do you schedule writing?

I don’t schedule writing, I try my best to write whenever the spirit hits me. The best songs in my opinion; are made in the moment (opposed to the songs which take longer to write.) I usually write my songs, without a beat to it. I can’t listen to a song if I don’t like the beat.

Do you play a musical instrument? If yes which one and if not if you did which one would it be?

I no longer play any musical instruments, but in high school I played the clarinet.

If I could, I would play the trumpet. One of my favorite music genres is Jazz. My favorite Jazz musician is Miles Davis.

Does your family support your work?

My family fully supports my work. They come to my shows and help spread my music.

If you could change 3 things in this world what would you change?

The United States Presidency, Eliminate the Electoral College, Fix Flint Michigan’s Water Crisis.

What was the last movie you saw? The last book you read?

Get Out, Soul On Ice by Eldridge Cleaver

What is your favorite home cooked meal?

Fried Chicken, Candy Yams, Macaroni & Cheese, Corn Bread, Collard Greens, Spinach.

Where can we find you online? Purchase your work?

Have a listen: Dskillz Harris on YouTube 

Purchase : Buy Dskillz Harris Music

Main Link : Dskillz Harris

Thank you so much Dskillz and best wishes for a successful career!

      
 

Foodie Friday Fragments…

Foodie Friday Fragments are bits and pieces of your week that are usually brief; too short for a stand-alone post, but too good to discard. Collect humorous observations, “Heard” items, and other small gems throughout your week and put them together in a Friday Fragments post. Add a recipe or something ‘foodie’ from your week. Leave me a link in the comments so I can read your fragments!

The original host of Friday Fragments was Mrs. 4444’s. You can find some of those posts here:

half past kissin’ time to kiss again.

Our roller-coaster weather continues here in Philly. What a mess today! What did I do to amuse myself while waiting for the torrential rain to slow down before I got out of the car? I took pictures.

The payoff in lush green grass and leaves and the beautiful flowers will be so worth it.

My first granddaughter, Allyson attends school 10-minutes away. She’s packing her dorm up today and heading home for the summer. I’m really going to miss her. It feels like empty nest 2.0

 

Whichever way you happen to lean politically we all have to admit it isn’t boring. I wish everyone would just get back to their lives.

I’m really curious to know what the numbers are for newspaper sales since Donald Trump came down that escalator. Wouldn’t it be funny if he created the ‘Fake News’ war to actually sell newspapers. I can’t help but wonder if he has stock in any major papers or if he is friends with any owners.

The Summer Movie Line-Up is kind of Blah! This weekend Guardians of the Universe II is expected to top 100 million dollars. The reviews are good. I don’t think I could handle the 3D.

On Friday May 12th Charlie Hunnam (Sons of Anarchy & almost 50 Shades but he backed out) is back in Guy Ritchie’s King Arthur: Legend of the Sword. This is one I’m looking forward to only because I’m a Charlie fan.

Also releasing May 12th is Fox’s Snatched starring Goldie Hawn and Amy Schumer as a mother and daughter that are kidnapped in Ecuador. People actually do get kidnapped in Ecuador so I’m not sure it will be that funny. Joan Cusack and Wanda Sykes are also in this one.

Oh my. Baywatch releases May 25th     

I loved Wonder Woman. What are the chances the movie opening June 2nd will be any good?

Are you excited about these or any other early summer releases?

How did I never crave McDonald’s chicken nuggets until I was diagnosed with Celiac Disease? I’ve also been craving pasta. Following my dieticians advice I’m shopping the outer aisles of the supermarket. Spaghetti Squash caught my eye. It wasn’t a pretty process but the end result was so good.

Spaghetti Squash & Meatballs

1 large Spaghetti Squash

3 tablespoons butter melted

Salt & Pepper

I used a bag of Trader Joes Meatballs

1 can of Hunts diced tomatoes

1 small can of Hunts tomato paste

1 can of Hunts sauce

½ cup onion diced

2 teaspoons diced garlic

Bay leaf

I put the sauces, meatballs, garlic, onion and bay leaf in the slow cooker on low for 3 ½ hours stirring occasionally.

The Squash was not easy to cut in half. After the fact, I read that if you microwave it for 2- minutes it’s easier to slice. Place each ½ on a cookie sheet. Brush with butter and sprinkle with salt and pepper. Bake at 350 for 50-minutes.

Remove from oven and let sit for 5-minutes. Take a fork and scrape lengthwise until noodles form.

Add sauce, meatballs and parmesan cheese.

The noodles were slightly crunchy. I may not have baked it long enough but I was pleasantly surprised at how delicious it was!

Have a Blessed Weekend,

Doreen

 

 

 

 

 

      
 
 
   
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