Are You A Social Master Or A Novice? By Ange Fonce What is the difference between a novice social artist and an expert one? No, it is not routines. It is not an unshakeable inner game. It is not even experience. The difference between a novice and an ...

 

 

 


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Are You A Social Master Or A Novice? By Ange Fonce





Are You A Social Master Or A Novice?

By Ange Fonce


What is the difference between a novice social artist and an expert one?

No, it is not routines.

It is not an unshakeable inner game.

It is not even experience.

The difference between a novice and an expert is this:

The expert understands and follows the model of building a relationship while the novice freestyles and leaves it to chance.

To clarify, things can be spontaneous and in the moment and will not always follow some cookie cutter flow chart, yet you will build better connections if you have the understanding of how to do that. Some people are natural experts at this.

If I can pinpoint one of the most impactful pieces of advice that I can give, is that if you want to build any kind of relationship, you have to follow that model to gain that understanding.

Many people are able to get into conversations pretty easy yet after a few minutes, the conversation slowly died, and they would politely excuse...

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The Question I Cannot Answer By Ange Fonce





The Question I Cannot Answer

By Ange Fonce


I hear all the time when people sign up to work with me 1-1, or when they want to join my programs, they want to know how fast can they be successful.

How fast can they get from A to B?

How fast can they get their goals?

And my answer to them is, I do not know.

I do not know how long it is going to take to be successful.

I do not know how long it is going to take to get your first goal... and I have been coaching for over 10 years.

And what I have learned is that it is impossible to answer this question because everyone's background is different. Everyone's circumstance, skillset, fears and doubts are different and unique.

And if it was as simple as trying to solve a Rubik's cube, or putting a 500 piece puzzle together, we could estimate that easier. Yet, when it comes to acquiring a successful coaching goal or relationship, it is a lot more complicated.

That said, what I do think is that your success is inevitable...

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Non Verbal Communication What Does It Say About You? By Ange Fonce





Non Verbal Communication What Does It Say About You?

By Ange Fonce


Body language is obviously a huge part of social intelligence.

Unfortunately, it is such a huge topic that it is hard to tell where to start.

Remember, when you are learning something new you want to start with the basics; something that you can practice many times, to start understanding the principles behind the art.

One of the best places to start with body language is...





Handshakes



Handshakes can easily be practiced, and since they are such a common gesture, they should be.

Next time you are going to shake hands, try to be conscious of how you are shaking and how they are responding.

Figure out what you can do to improve your handshakes.

Think about how often handshakes come up when you are interacting with someone new, and you will understand why they are so important to work on.

Every handshake says something about you. Which means every handshake is an opportunity to express...

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Mindfulness And Compassion By Ange Fonce





Mindfulness And Compassion

By Ange Fonce


Compassion is an important concept, and even more important practice to integrate into one’s life.

Like all ideas, layers underlie the meaning.

It refers to something we all do a lot of and call it compassion.

In some ways, it is what is called enabling. It is the general tendency to give people what they want because you cannot bear to see them suffering.

The danger in this...

Instead of offering a friend medicine, bitter though it may be when ingested, you feed them more poison-at the very least, you do not take it away from them.

This, is not compassion at all.

It is selfishness, as you are more concerned with your own feelings than attending to the others actual needs.

Granted, saying uncomfortable things to someone close to you is no easy task.

If they are violent or depressive, criticism could send them spiraling. Yet enabling is not good either. Stepping up and being a teacher in challenging situations...

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How Your Own Thoughts Can Cause Your Depression! By Ange Fonce





How Your Own Thoughts Can Cause Your Depression!

By Ange Fonce


In this article about "Depression" I am coming at it from a very different angle.

First let me share with you a story...

About 10 years ago, I became friendly with a man who had a very successful printing business, as well as a significant personal fortune. He was a very charismatic man - always good-natured, upbeat, full of fun, and easy to like.

Then - during the recession of the 2010's - his business collapsed.

I do not remember the details, he had taken on a lot of debt and lost a few of his biggest clients.

Then, suddenly, he was bankrupt.

When I heard about it, I called to console him and offer a helping hand. It was too late. Sobbing, his wife told me that he had killed himself. I was shocked. Devastated. I could not understand why he had done it. He had so much going for him.

A beautiful family.

Loving friends.

Intelligence.

...

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