Are You A Social Master Or A Novice? By Ange Fonce What is the difference between a novice social artist and an expert one? No, it is not routines. It is not an unshakeable inner game. It is not even experience. The difference between a novice and an ...
What is the difference between a novice social artist and an expert one?
No, it is not routines.
It is not an unshakeable inner game.
It is not even experience.
The difference between a novice and an expert is this:
The expert understands and follows the model of building a relationship while the novice freestyles and leaves it to chance.
To clarify, things can be spontaneous and in the moment and will not always follow some cookie cutter flow chart, yet you will build better connections if you have the understanding of how to do that. Some people are natural experts at this.
If I can pinpoint one of the most impactful pieces of advice that I can give, is that if you want to build any kind of relationship, you have to follow that model to gain that understanding.
Many people are able to get into conversations pretty easy yet after a few minutes, the conversation slowly died, and they would politely excuse...
I hear all the time when people sign up to work with me 1-1, or when they want to join my programs, they want to know how fast can they be successful.
How fast can they get from A to B?
How fast can they get their goals?
And my answer to them is, I do not know.
I do not know how long it is going to take to be successful.
I do not know how long it is going to take to get your first goal... and I have been coaching for over 10 years.
And what I have learned is that it is impossible to answer this question because everyone's background is different. Everyone's circumstance, skillset, fears and doubts are different and unique.
And if it was as simple as trying to solve a Rubik's cube, or putting a 500 piece puzzle together, we could estimate that easier. Yet, when it comes to acquiring a successful coaching goal or relationship, it is a lot more complicated.
That said, what I do think is that your success is inevitable...
In this article about "Depression" I am coming at it from a very different angle.
First let me share with you a story...
About 10 years ago, I became friendly with a man who had a very successful printing business, as well as a significant personal fortune. He was a very charismatic man - always good-natured, upbeat, full of fun, and easy to like.
Then - during the recession of the 2010's - his business collapsed.
I do not remember the details, he had taken on a lot of debt and lost a few of his biggest clients.
Then, suddenly, he was bankrupt.
When I heard about it, I called to console him and offer a helping hand. It was too late. Sobbing, his wife told me that he had killed himself. I was shocked. Devastated. I could not understand why he had done it. He had so much going for him.