When He Pulls Away Do Not Do This By Ange Fonce I wanted to start this article with an email I recieved from a long term reader and for you to see her question... Hi Ange. I have many of your articles about mistakes in relationships and I have to admit ...

 

 

 


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When He Pulls Away Do Not Do This By Ange Fonce





When He Pulls Away Do Not Do This

By Ange Fonce


I wanted to start this article with an email I recieved from a long term reader and for you to see her question...

Hi Ange.

I have many of your articles about mistakes in relationships and I have to admit I cried. You are totally right!

Why?

Because I recently started spending a lot of time with a guy I used to know. We had an instant connection and he was exactly as you said: affectionate at first, initiating plans etc, then I made not one mistake but ALL of those you mentioned in your email, and as you said.... he pulled away big time.

The attraction's gone for him now. What I want to know is, is there any way I can reverse the damage I have caused? Can I get my friendship with him back on track? Is it possible he may learn to feel again what he once felt for me? Please help. I'm at my wits end and I really do miss having him in my life. I would be grateful for any advice you could give me on this matter.
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How to Develop Outcome Focused Thinking To Acquire Success By Ange Fonce





How to Develop Outcome Focused Thinking To Acquire Success

By Ange Fonce


Why do so many people struggle to 'ever' get what they want?

And why do a few people seem to have some kind of magical power, luck or the MIDAS TOUCH?

Well, it has to do what they focus on.

Typically, people use one of two main strategies and motivations to 'make things happen.' Both are important and necessary yet still limiting.

Let us discuss these two 'older' and LESS EFFECTIVE METHODS for change first, then we will look at the best way to get what you want.

What is GOOD... Problem Focused

This is where you are focused on overcoming obstacles, challenges and finding relief from the stress that arise along your path during change.

The mistake with this is that your subconscious mind is directed by what you focus on most. So, if you are focused on problems then they will actually expand and happen even more.

This is debilitating over time because it only robs you of energy, power and...

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Your Story May Be All Wrong By Ange Fonce





Your Story May Be All Wrong

By Ange Fonce


Having spoken to and coached people, I have noticed that one of the biggest hurdles people have to get over regarding social intelligence is this:

The ability to express your life as a story.

The ability to listen and understand the story other people are trying to express.

Without this ability it is hard to make friends, it is hard to find new opportunities, it is hard to have adventures, it is hard to land meet up's and nearly impossible to get those meet up's to workout for you.

And whether you like it or not, everything you ever do and ever say is a part of your story.

Your style is part of the story.

Your body language is part of the story.

Your words and the way you use them are part of the story.

Your friends and acquaintances are part of the story.

Your skills, hobbies and talents are part of the story.

Your job and all the work you have ever done is part of the story.
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When Quitting Is a Postive Thing To Do By Ange Fonce




When Quitting Is a Postive Thing To Do

By Ange Fonce



There are times when quitting is a positive move to do.

I will be the first to admit that this statement sounds insane and is utterly counter to everything we were raised to believe.

You see, there is this idea that we should never give up, and that we are quitters or losers if we do.

It is false.

If something is not working or benifitting you... why keep doing it?


Look, I get that this desire to never quit is coming from a good place. The idea is to develop resiliency, grit, and self discipline. Those are the most important things a person can have. And it is because of those attributes, not despite it, that we need to understand the value of quitting.

Because if you never quit, you will always be stuck with what you have and if you are stuck with what you have and it is not helping you grow and make your life better... again why are you doing it?


Think of it this way

        
 
 
 

What I Learned from 30 Years of Relationship Coaching By Ange Fonce





What I Learned from 30 Years of Relationship Coaching

By Ange Fonce



Have you heard the term... attractive self-expression.

By learning how to express who you are, the way you want, in any situation, you can alter the course of any relationship for the better.

And there are 50+ years of university studies to back it up.

You can learn a lot in 50 years.

You can learn a lot about yourself and your partner.

You can learn even more by studying other people, finding their patterns, and understanding which patterns you fit into.

They have come up with a lot of findings, and there are many factors that affect relationships. And one of the biggest may surprise you.

So here is the surprising news:

A major factor of staying in a long-term relationship is deeply connected to one of the same factors that helps you find a relationship in the first place:

Being Interesting. And it is probably not what you think.

In this artical I am going...

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