What I Learned from 30 Years of Relationship Coaching By Ange Fonce Have you heard the term... attractive self-expression. By learning how to express who you are, the way you want, in any situation, you can alter the course of any relationship for the ...

 

 

 


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What I Learned from 30 Years of Relationship Coaching By Ange Fonce





What I Learned from 30 Years of Relationship Coaching

By Ange Fonce



Have you heard the term... attractive self-expression.

By learning how to express who you are, the way you want, in any situation, you can alter the course of any relationship for the better.

And there are 50+ years of university studies to back it up.

You can learn a lot in 50 years.

You can learn a lot about yourself and your partner.

You can learn even more by studying other people, finding their patterns, and understanding which patterns you fit into.

They have come up with a lot of findings, and there are many factors that affect relationships. And one of the biggest may surprise you.

So here is the surprising news:

A major factor of staying in a long-term relationship is deeply connected to one of the same factors that helps you find a relationship in the first place:

Being Interesting. And it is probably not what you think.

In this artical I am going...

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Do Not Try to Go it Alone Seek The Opportunities Out There By Ange Fonce





Do Not Try to Go it Alone Seek The Opportunities Out There

By Ange Fonce


The are a lot of myths and realities of what it takes to run a successful on-line business

We have a myth about the entrepreneur - that he (and in the myth, it is always a “he”) is an insane risk taker, that he has magical powers to see a future no one else can see, and that he listens to nothing and no one just his own gut.

This is about as realistic as telling you you can learn everything about business and marketing by going to Hogwarts. There is no such thing as wizards, magic wands, or cloaks of invisibility. And this maverick go-it-alone entrepreneur is as fictional as Harry Potter.

What it really takes to launch and run a successful business?

If you look around at people who are actually running great businesses (both big ambitious ones and satisfying little side businesses), they do not look much like our mythical entrepreneur. Specifically, they have some skills that our maverick...

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Myths That Ruin Relationships By Ange





Myths That Ruin Relationships

By Ange


The problem with the "you complete me" model of relationships is simple maths.

The myth trumpets that I am less than whole but with you I can be restored to whole.

People think...

'I'm half and you are half and together we make a whole."

Yet human beings are not additive, we are dynamic.

It turns into multiplication.

A half times a half is a fourth, and you end up with less than when you started.

This myth is completely untrue.

As a professional coach, I often see the fractional fallout from that and other romantic fallacies too often, and I will elaborate on a few points.

1... In much of today's marriage and relationship advice, I hear two contradictory messages.

The first is...

"Be careful who you marry."

The second is...

"Marriage is challenging with anyone, so who you marry does not matter as much as who you are."

You have got to flip the order of those.

If you take care of the first...

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Is It Love? Or Just a Crush? By Ange Fonce





Is It Love? Or Just a Crush?

By Ange Fonce


We all know what it is like to fall for someone.

You never want to be apart.

You obsess over them.

You crave them.

They can do no wrong.

Yet are those feeling really love?

Not exactly.

They are symptoms of the temporary state of infatuation generated by literal chemical changes that affect the way you your brain processes information.

It is a “high” based on initial attraction.

It is not “lust” exactly, yet close to it.

Many relationships start out with these feelings.

So how can you cut through them to see if what you are feeling is more than a mere chemical high?

There are a number of questions you should ask yourself.

And one is more important than all the others.

Does your relationship make you feel encouraged to be your best self?

When we are with someone who truly matters to us on a deep level, and to whom we matter as well, it makes us want to be a better version of ourselves.
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Transforming Negative Self Talk Into Something Positive By Ange Fonce





Transforming Negative Self Talk Into Something Positive

By Ange Fonce


You talk to yourself!

Yes?

Yet in what way do you talk to yourself?

Because the way you explain setbacks, mistakes and disappointments to yourself can dramatically affect your outcomes and how you live your life!

Whether your thoughts are pessimistic or optimistic will affect the choices you make, actions you take and the quality of your relationships and life.

Pessimistic thoughts, are useful in high-risk situations where doing a second safety check might save your life, yet optimistic thoughts will generally serve you better.

When coming up against a stressful situation a pessimist's fight or flight response will be triggered more readily and stay switched on for longer than an optimistic person.

Like when opportunities present themselves a pessimistic person will generally avoid the risk and lose opportunities that would have benefitted them.

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