Examples can be helpful. Partly because they illustrate .
If your girlfriend describes in more explicit detail just what she is going to do to you that night, she is often depositing an immediate example. She is posting an 'hypothetical info-commercial " .
This works, because the most powerful consistent force within a person's life is both hidden, and is grounded in "beliefs."
What you believe, at the core, defines your future actions. Of course. But it need not determine what you do right now.
This is because 'beliefs' are in resident memory. This means that they are stored close by, draw upon, called up, applied and instigated after or even during the immediate life experience. When you examine what is going on, your brain will quickly scan and interpret that series of events against the backdrop of your 'Beliefs'.
If, for example, I give to you a gun, and say to you: "Go kill John." You will not even consider doing that if you believe in the core value of a human life, and/or fear punishment, and/or you are a passivist specific to 'killing a man', and for all of the usual reasons.
However, if you believe that your primary purpose in life is to eradicate from the world all bad people, and you have been further educated, experienced, designed to believe that John is a 'Bad Person", you may consider killing John. You might even do it.
And, as against that backdrop, what could be more important than 'What my girlfriend and her scandalous dirty mind has in mind for me in three hours."
Immediate circumstance, cast against the theory, or against a 'belief' [that at some point, even after she, or a friend, or even the Police, or a prying neighbour, releases you from the handcuffs anchored to the bedposts] that this could be painful, does not persuasively [if at all] enter the picture.
It doesn't even seem to matter that this same woman tried to light you on fire with Bar-B-Que igniter last July. Or that you suffered third degree burns. She will of course promise not to do anything after you utter the "Safe Word" this time.
Resident memory (Beliefs) are far less powerful than most people understand. This, in part, accounts for the numerous scandalous events that seem to plague every respected, family-type brilliant ground-shaking/breaking/earth quaking human being in historical recess.
No, I am not going to list these people for you.
You have read with relish these 'Society Front Page' fuck-ups .. yes you have .. like a family of Menonites slowing down to view another gruesome high speed highway [insert appropriate Highways and Infrastructure#] collision tragedy and then you have routinely subjected the same to your 'beliefs' and stored memory that these little vignettes have been given into your 'belief memory' ("Well, that would never happen to me .. because ...) and then moved on to your next likely boring/disapointing destination.
And I am going to tell you why this is sad.
And that, by way of demonstrative evidence, was a bit of foreshadowing, as my beloved English 10 teacher put it.
I promised Elsie that one day I would be famous. I was, but for all of the wrong reasons.
But then, the deal was .. "Be Famous, and then mention me as the reason. "
Kind of a strange promise to make to a seventy-one year-old English teacher in an upper-middle class highschool in 1969. So Elsie will, I expect, excuse me for not mentioning her as that reason.
I am told, but I doubt it, that everyone has (at least) 'one special teacher" in their lives. The one who 'gets' them, and perhaps even 'connects', and propels them forward.
My last word to Elsie at the time, in response to her solemn (and, I know, heartfelt) direction that I:
"Find a career in writing. Do not waste your gift Warren. "
" But Ms. Park-Gowan, writing doesn't pay any money. "
And that is where we left it.
She was seventy-two, I later learned, when she found love, in a man.
Elsie was quite a pretty girl, in the pictures that she could paint with words, that came true.
But that doesn't happen. It only happens to people like Elsie.